This newsletter seeks to explore the intersection of creativity and queerness and sex and culture, and to really indulge in waaaay overthinking the shit out of all if it, with joyful abandon. I hope that’s your jam too.
Sapiosexual refers to a person who is sexually attracted to intelligence. There’s also the term “noetisexual” to describe sexual attraction to someone’s mind. We here at SLL are anti-gatekeeping and non-dogmatic when it comes to vocabulary, and it’s up to every person whether they think a particular term better fits their own experience. For more discussion of the term and what intelligence means and other words that you might think about in this context, check out this post.
Newsletters under the banner The Steamy take up more explicit discussion of sex and sexuality. Because the best and most interesting way to talk about the cultural hang-ups and issues around sex is to actually, you know, talk about sex. But I know this is not necessarily everyone’s jam, or that one is not always in a place or at a moment where reading sexually explicit content is cool. So, these are clearly marked.
And just in case you need to hear this: It's ok to read about sex or relationships that you're not interested in having. It's also ok to skip the sexy bits and read around them, or pass on reading about sexual relationships you’re not interested in. But yeah, it’s also ok to read about relationships that you’re curious about, just for the sake of curiosity. Sex positivity is for everyone.
What else? I’m also hoping to have some interesting discussion of amatonormative assumptions and heteronormative constructs, and would love to hear others’ thoughts and comments on this as well. Other suggestions or ideas are also very welcome!
